Why is it so hard to take care?

WHY?

Hi friends,

For over a decade, I’ve been watching a phenomenon unfold in people’s lives. At times, I’ve even had a front-row seat as it makes an appearance in my own.

I’m not entirely sure what to call it — resistance, self-sabotage, a deep-seated fear of change? Whatever its name, what fascinates me most is its power to keep us from the very thing we need most.

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WAYS TO PRACTICE WITH KATE

The question, “Why is it so hard to take care of ourselves?” feels like the doorway into this phenomenon.

We all know, at least in part, what self-care looks like — moving our bodies, drinking more water, prioritizing sleep, setting boundaries so we don’t overextend ourselves.
The issue isn’t knowing. It’s doing. So what keeps us from following through?

I believe it ultimately comes down to belief. What we believe — consciously or unconsciously — shapes what we do and what we avoid, regardless of whether those beliefs are actually true.

So when you notice yourself feeling frustrated for not taking care of yourself — even though you know you “should” or deeply want to — pause.

Turn toward Mindful Living.

Mindfulness invites us to release judgment and gently observe ourselves and our circumstances with awareness.

There is always a reason you are not taking care of yourself. And more often than not, that reason is rooted in belief.

So instead of criticizing yourself, get curious.
Why am I not caring for myself?
What am I believing right now?

Here are four common reasons people struggle with self-care:

This brings me to a quote by Tara Brach that has stayed with me over the years.

Whenever I notice that my actions are out of alignment with my intentions - and I'm willing to gently examine what I'm believing - I return to these words: :

Always practicing with you!

Blessings & Peace,

*kate*